DISLEXICON
words that refuse to behave
The Dislexicon is a collection words, phrases, and terms used to describe the neurodivergent experience — and includes the accurate, commonly used terminology for clinical or community contexts. It’s designed to be an accessible, trustworthy, and community-centered resource: part dictionary, part thesaurus, part lived-experience atlas.
Section I: Redefined words, because the regular ones didn’t fit.
Section II: Words, Terms & Phrases often used in clinical contexts
Section I: Redefined Words
(Because the regular ones didn’t fit)
1. Motivation (noun)
A rare atmospheric phenomenon that appears only when you’re already busy doing something else.
2. Masking (verb)
Advanced-level social theater performed daily by autistic adults with no union, no intermission, and terrible lighting.
3. Executive Function (noun)
My brain’s unpaid intern.
4. Self-Care (noun)
The mythical practice of doing things that are “good for you” instead of disassociating with iced coffee and online shopping (yes, abandoned carts exist online too).
5. Burnout (noun)
That magical point where your brain’s operating system says, “You’ve been doing human things too long. Please reboot.”
6. Routine (noun)
A sacred ritual that keeps life predictable until someone dares to move your favorite mug, and then it’s war.
7. Focus (noun)
An elusive creature known to appear only at 2 a.m. when you’re supposed to be sleeping.
8. PDA (acronym)
Persistent Desire for Autonomy: when your brain says “No” to everything, including things you actually want to do.
Also: Pervasive Demand Avoidance.
9. Socializing (verb)
The exhausting art of pretending to be spontaneous while silently tracking 400 unspoken rules.
10. Tokens (noun)
The invisible currency used by neurodivergent people to survive the day.
11. “I’m Fine” (phrase)
Autistic-to-English translation: “I’m currently dissociating, under-caffeinated, emotionally on fire, but still trying to appear approachable.”
12. Crooked (noun)
When everything feels “off and your skin doesn’t fit.
12. Hot-Brain
The state of having too many tabs open, feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated. The system is overheating and the lights are too loud.
13. Parenting (noun)
The hell we’d never give up.
14. ADD (noun)
Attention Distribution Difference. A cognitive theme park where every ride is open, none have lines, and somehow you’ve been on all of them at once since 4 a.m.
15. Autism (noun)
A neurotype characterized by intense interests, sensory chaos, and an inability to present things make sense when they clearly don’t.
16. Anxiety (noun)
A background app that drains all your tokens while doing absolutely nothing useful. The feeling of being late for something that doesn’t exist.
17. Depression (noun)
When your brain’s low power mode becomes the default setting. A heavy fog where joy feels theoretical and brushing your teeth counts as a major victory. The opposite of sparkle - but still, somehow you.
18. OCD (noun)
The brain’s attempt to install security software that won’t stop sending pop-up warnings. The exhausting art of keeping chaos at bay by making sure the light switch clicks exactly four times.
19. Emotional Regulation (noun)
The delicate art of convincing your nervous system that everything’s fine when it’s clearly not.
20. RSD (abbrev.)
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. A condition where every “no” feels like the apocalypse, and every “maybe” feels like betrayal.
21. Hyperfocus (noun/verb)
A state of tunnel vision where time ceases to exist, snacks disappear, and emails pile up in another dimension.
22. Shutdown (noun/verb)
The art of becoming invisible, silent, and sometimes motionless, while the world continues screaming. A hard reset - sometimes short, sometimes long, always inconvenient.
“The Dislexicon: redefining words, because the regular ones didn’t fit.”
Section II: Words, Terms & Phrases
(often used in clinical settings)
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Category: clinical · emotional processing
Short: Difficulty identifying and describing one’s own emotions.
Detail: Commonly discussed with autism but not exclusive. It can affect emotional insight and communication; supports include emotion vocabulary practice and externalizing prompts.
Usage: “Because of alexithymia, I sometimes say ‘I don’t know’ when I feel frustrated.”
Synonyms/related: emotional alexia (rare)
Lived note: “Learning emotion words helped me recognize what I felt.” — C.
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Autistic ADHD / Co-occurring Autism & ADHD)
Category: neurodivergence · cognition · executive function
Short definition:
A combination of autistic and ADHD traits in the same person, where both sets of neurological differences influence behavior, attention, and sensory processing.Detail: audHD describes individuals whose neurology exhibits characteristics of both autism and ADHD. This can include differences in executive function, attention regulation, sensory sensitivity, social interaction, and emotional processing. People with audHD may experience:
Difficulty switching tasks or managing time due to executive function overlap
Heightened sensory sensitivities combined with distractibility or hyperfocus
Social challenges stemming from both masking needs (autism) and impulsivity or inattentiveness (ADHD)
While audHD presents challenges, it also brings strengths such as intense interests, creativity, pattern recognition, and problem-solving in unique ways. Support strategies work best when they address both sensory and attentional needs, rather than treating each in isolation.
Usage:
“Living with audHD means I hyperfocus on my special interest but still struggle with deadlines.”
“Her audHD profile explains why she needs quiet spaces and structured routines.”Synonyms/related: co-occurring autism & ADHD, autistic ADHD, dual neurodivergence
Lived note: “I’ve learned that my brain isn’t ‘broken’ — it’s audHD, which is chaotic but brilliant in its own way.” — K.
Flags: neurodivergence, executive function, sensory
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Category: clinical · mental-health guidance
Short: Burnout and depression can overlap but have different origins and recovery paths.
Detail: Autistic burnout stems from chronic overload and masking; depression can be neurochemical and psychological. Both may co-occur. Assessment should consider history, triggers, and sensory/energy patterns for accurate support.
Usage: “She was misdiagnosed with depression when workplace burnout was the core issue.”
Synonyms/related: clinical differential, comorbidity
Lived note: “Naming it ‘burnout’ helped my employer provide the right leave.” — W.
Flags: mental-health, clinical nuance
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Category: neurodivergence · learning · cognition
Short definition: Co-occurring autism and dyslexia, where social, sensory, and executive differences intersect with reading and language processing challenges.
Detail: Autistic dyslexia describes people who are both autistic and dyslexic. They may face difficulties with reading, spelling, and writing, alongside sensory sensitivities, executive function challenges, and social differences. Strengths can include pattern recognition, creativity, visual thinking, and hyperfocus on interests.
Usage: “Her autistic dyslexia means she prefers audiobooks but also notices details others miss in text.”
Synonyms/related: co-occurring autism & dyslexia, dual neurodivergence, learning + neurodivergence
Lived note: “I don’t read like everyone else, but I see the world differently and in depth.” — L.
Flags: neurodivergence, learning
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Category: community · mental-health
Short: Deep physical, emotional, and cognitive exhaustion from prolonged masking or sensory/mental load.
Detail: Different from typical stress, ND burnout can include loss of skills, increased sensory sensitivity, and days-to-weeks of reduced functioning after sustained demands. Recovery can be slow and requires rest and environmental changes.
Usage: “After months of nonstop meetings I hit burnout and couldn’t work for two weeks.”
Synonyms/related: autistic burnout, executive function collapse
Lived note: “I needed months of quiet to get anything back.” — S.
Flags: mental-health
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Category: community/clinical · nuance in social adaptation
Short: Camouflaging hides difference; compensating uses strategies to accomplish social tasks.
Detail: Compensating is deliberate strategy (scripts, rules) to get by; camouflaging often includes subconscious suppression of mannerisms. Distinguishing them helps tailor supports and therapy.
Usage: “He compensates with a checklist; she camouflages without realizing it.”
Synonyms/related: social compensation, adaptation
Lived note: “Knowing the difference changed my therapy goals.” — E.
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Category: neurodivergence · learning · motor
Short: A learning and motor difference affecting handwriting, spelling, and written expression.
Detailed: Dysgraphia is a neurodivergent condition in which the brain has difficulty coordinating the physical act of writing or organizing written thoughts. People with dysgraphia may struggle with letter formation, spacing, spelling, and expressing ideas on paper. It often co-occurs with dyslexia, ADHD, or dyspraxia. Support strategies include typing, speech-to-text tools, occupational therapy, and structured writing approaches.
Usage: “Dysgraphia makes long essays exhausting, so I always type assignments.”
“My handwriting is messy because my brain struggles to coordinate pen movements.”Synonyms/related: writing disability, fine motor difference, written expression difficulty
Lived note: “Writing isn’t broken — my hands and brain just communicate differently.” — K.
Flags: neurodivergence, learning, motor
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Category: neurodivergence · learning · cognition
Short definition:
A learning difference that affects reading, spelling, writing, and sometimes processing language.Details: Dyslexia is a neurodivergent profile that impacts how the brain interprets written and spoken language. People with dyslexia may read slowly, confuse letters or words, struggle with spelling, or have difficulty sequencing information. Strengths often include visual thinking, problem-solving, creativity, and pattern recognition. Dyslexia is not linked to intelligence, and with supportive strategies, individuals thrive academically and professionally.
Usage: “I rely on audiobooks and speech-to-text tools because of my dyslexia.”
“Her dyslexia makes reading challenging, but she excels at visual problem-solving.”Synonyms/related: reading difference, language processing difference, learning difference
Lived note: “I see letters differently — it’s frustrating sometimes, but it doesn’t define my abilities.” — L.
Flags: neurodivergence, learning
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Category: neurodivergence · motor · cognition
Short definition: A neurodivergent difference affecting coordination, planning, and execution of movement.
Detailed: Dyspraxia is a neurological condition that impacts motor planning and coordination. People with dyspraxia may struggle with fine motor tasks (writing, buttoning clothes), gross motor skills (running, jumping, catching), or sequencing movements. It can also affect speech, organization, and task execution. Dyspraxia often co-occurs with autism, ADHD, or learning differences. Supports include occupational therapy, adaptive strategies, and structured practice to improve motor skills and independence.
Usage: “Dyspraxia makes handwriting exhausting, so I use a tablet for notes.”
“Simple tasks like tying shoes or catching a ball take extra effort because of my dyspraxia.”Synonyms/related: developmental coordination disorder (DCD), motor planning difference, clumsiness (informal)
Lived note: “I’m not uncoordinated — my brain just plans movements differently.” — S.Flags: neurodivergence, motor, cognition
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Category: clinical/community · communication
Short: Repeating words or phrases heard earlier — can be immediate or delayed.
Detail: Not merely copying; echolalia can be communicative, self-soothing, or processing language. Context matters: it may convey meaning even if not literal.
Usage: “He used echolalia to answer the question.”
Synonyms/related: immediate/delayed echolalia, parroting (pejorative)
Lived note: “My echoes helped me process what people said.” — F.
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Category: clinical · cognitive
Short: Mental skills for planning, starting, switching, and finishing tasks.
Detail: Includes organization, time management, working memory, and inhibition. Many neurodivergent people have executive function differences that affect daily tasks, jobs, and school — not a moral failure but a cognitive variance.
Usage: “My executive function struggle means I need checklists and timers.”
Synonyms/related: EF, cognitive control
Lived note: “A planner helps, but it doesn’t fix the fatigue it takes to start.” — P.
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Category: community · cognitive model
Short: Intense, narrowed attention on one interest or task.
Detail: Hyperfocus (often discussed in ADHD contexts) and monotropism (an autistic cognitive model) describe deep absorption that can boost productivity or make switching tasks very hard. Can be joyful or problematic depending on context.
Usage: “I lost six hours reading because of hyperfocus.”
Synonyms/related: intense focus, flow (but not identical)
Lived note: “It’s my superpower and my kryptonite.” — K.
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Category: neurodivergence · motor · physical
Short: Reduced muscle tone that can affect strength, posture, coordination, and motor control.
Detailed: Hypotonia is a neurological or developmental difference in which muscles are less firm than typical. People with hypotonia may appear “floppy,” tire easily, or have difficulty with balance, fine motor skills, or posture. It can occur on its own or co-occur with neurodivergent conditions such as autism, Down syndrome, or developmental coordination differences. Support strategies often include physical therapy, occupational therapy, and adaptive tools to improve strength, coordination, and daily function.
Usage: “Hypotonia makes it harder for me to carry heavy objects or sit upright for long periods.”
“Fine motor tasks like handwriting are challenging due to low muscle tone.”Synonyms/related: low muscle tone, floppy muscles, motor coordination differences
Lived note: “Even simple movements take more energy — my muscles just don’t hold themselves up.” — R.
Flags: neurodivergence, motor, physical
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Category: community · language guidance
Short: Saying “autistic person” rather than “person with autism” to emphasize identity.
Detail: Many autistic people prefer identity-first language (autistic person) as it reflects a core part of self. Preferences vary — ask or follow community/individual preference.
Usage: “She identifies as autistic (identity-first).”
Synonyms/related: person-first language (contrast)
Lived note: “Identity-first felt right to me; it’s not universal.” — N.
Flags: language sensitivity
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Category: community · social behavior
Short: Hiding or altering natural behaviors to appear neurotypical.
Detail: Masking includes suppressing stims, mimicking facial expressions, scripting small talk, or researching social rules to fit in. It can reduce bullying but often causes exhaustion, identity confusion, and burnout.
Usage: “I spent the whole meeting masking and felt wiped out afterward.”
Synonyms/related: social camouflaging, passing
Lived note: “Masking kept me safe early on, but later it cost me my sense of self.” — A. -
Category: community · response to overload
Short: Intense expression of distress (crying, yelling, thrashing) caused by overwhelm.
Detail: An involuntary breakdown triggered by sensory, emotional, or cognitive overload — not a tantrum or manipulation. Safety and de-escalation are priorities; avoid shaming responses.
Usage: “He had a meltdown after the fire alarm went off.”
Synonyms/related: crisis response, dysregulation episode
Lived note: “Please don’t punish someone for a meltdown — help them calm.” — L.
Flags: mental-health, crisis
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Category: identity · umbrella term
Short: An umbrella term for brains that deviate from societal norms (autism, ADHD, dyslexia, etc.).
Detail: Neurodivergence frames neurological differences as natural variation rather than pathology. It centers identity, accommodations, and strengths as well as challenges. Use as an identifier when people choose it.
Usage: “The workplace needs better supports for neurodivergent staff.”
Synonyms/related: ND, neurodiverse (note: “neurodiverse” often describes groups)
Lived note: “Calling myself neurodivergent changed how I saw my life.” — J.
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Category: identity · contrast term
Short: Describes people whose neurology aligns with societal majority norms.
Detail: Used for contrast, not insult. Some care about context when using “typical.” Helpful for explaining accommodations or social differences.
Usage: “I get different sensory needs than my neurotypical friends.”
Synonyms/related: NT (abbrev)
Lived note: “I use both ND and autistic depending on the audience.” — V.
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Category: clinical · sensory/cognitive
Short: Difficulty recognizing faces (face blindness).
Detail: Can be congenital or acquired; affects social interactions, causing stress or misinterpretations. Strategies include using voice, clothing cues, or explicit introductions. Not related to memory for other objects.
Usage: “I have prosopagnosia — please reintroduce yourself.”
Synonyms/related: face blindness
Lived note: “I rely on shoes and haircut to know people.” — H.Flags: none
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Category: community · social strategy
Short: Prewritten or practiced phrases used to handle expected social interactions.
Detail: Social scripts reduce ambiguity and anxiety. Examples: how to decline invitations, ask for help, or introduce oneself. They are practical tools, not inauthenticity.
Usage: “My script for small talk makes airport lines tolerable.”
Synonyms/related: prepared phrases, role-play practice
Lived note: “Scripts are my rehearsal for real life.” — Q.
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Category: community · communication
Short: Repeating memorized phrases, lines, or scripts to communicate or manage social situations.
Detail: Scripts help navigate conversation, reduce anxiety, or express feelings when spontaneous language is hard. They are a legitimate communication tool.
Usage: “I use a script for introducing myself at work.”
Synonyms/related: echolalia (when repeating others’ words), prepared phrases
Lived note: “Scripts are my safety net in noisy social scenes.” — O.
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Category: community · sensory
Short: Overwhelming sensory input causing distress, shutdown, or meltdown.
Detail: Occurs when one or multiple senses are flooded (bright lights, loud noise, crowded spaces). Responses vary: irritability, shutdown (withdrawal), or meltdown (loss of behavioral control). Supports and environment changes help.
Usage: “The concert triggered sensory overload — I had to leave.”
Synonyms/related: sensory dysregulation, hyper-sensitivity
Lived note: “It’s like my brain has too many tabs open.” — M.
Flags: sensory, mental-health
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Category: community · sensory profiles
Short: Tendency to crave (seek) or avoid specific sensory inputs.
Detail: Sensory profiles vary: someone might seek deep pressure and avoid bright lights. Supports are most effective when matched to a person’s profile rather than generalized rules.
Usage: “He’s sensory seeking — chew toys help in class.”
Synonyms/related: sensory profile, sensory processing patterns
Lived note: “Weighted blankets save my sleep.” — Y.
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Category: community · response to overload
Short: A withdrawal response where the person becomes unresponsive, quiet, or immobile due to overwhelm.
Detail: Different from meltdown (which is outward); shutdown is internal and can look like zoning out, inability to speak, or collapse. Recovery usually needs quiet, low stimulation, and time.
Usage: “After the meeting I shut down and couldn’t answer texts.”
Synonyms/related: collapse, overwhelm response
Lived note: “I don’t ‘choose’ to shut down — it’s my brain protecting itself.” — T.
Flags: mental-health, sensory
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Category: mental health, token management, executive function
Short: Tokens are units of energy we are allotted each 24 hours.
Detail: We begin each day with 100 tokens representing mental, emotional, and physical energy. Every action - thinking, socializing, sensing, deciding, or simply existing in a stimulating environment - spends tokens. As tokens run low, or run out, functioning becomes increasingly difficult, even for small tasks. Rest, solitude, or enjoyable stimming require fewer tokens, but DO NOT replenish them. Tokens do NOT roll over into the next day like cell phone minutes.
Usage: “I’m out of tokens for today - I can’t do another conversation.”
Synonyms/related: energy budget, capacity, spoons (from Spoon Theory)
Lived note: “If I’m not careful, I can use up 35 tokens before I’ve even left the house for the day.” — K.
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